I was texting with Robi last night that even though it’s been 3 weeks since Mom passed, it hasn’t got much better. In fact, in some ways, for me, it’s worse. Some of that may be due to the fact that I spent most of yesterday finding, taking and sending pictures to Kristin and deciding which songs to pair up with which pictures for the service. A few of them, especially the ones of Mom and me, finally got to me a bit. Oh well, still lots to do.
It’s 5:33 am now and I need to get the boys moving in a few so we can get down to Denver, do our shopping, and head back up the hill. First though, we’ll stop at Mom’s or Grandma’s, and try to find a few more pictures. In some ways, going through the old pictures and letters has given me a whole new perspective of just who my Mom was. She was not just a Mom, Grandma, mother in law or good friend, but a really neat gal (who says “gal” anymore, ha), that lived a great, meaningful life. In some ways, I’m more at peace as I’ve remembered she really did have fun and enjoy her life. When you think of your Mom, you think of her as a Mom, yet the pictures tell a story of a fun person who lived her life with a positive attitude and was kind to everyone. I’m so glad I’ve been finding all these and that she saved just about everything. I even found my Junior High School Year Books yesterday!
Lori’s busy with her Mom helping her interview care givers to help out until we can move her out here to Denver. The latest is that she will come here and move into an assisted living place. I personally think that’s best as then she and we can see each other often. One thing I’ve learned in the past few weeks is that family really IS the most important thing. Things and money are important to have to live a basic life, but it will not bring you peace and contentment. Sadly most people don’t realize this. We are fortunate enough to make a pretty good living compared to most people. But with more income, comes more bills, more taxes and more headaches. Of course if you don’t make a good income, you won’t believe this. Trust me, we all still have cash flow issues and live paycheck to paycheck from time to time. I don’t want to get sidetracked as my point here is that family and loving each other, must come first!
I guess I’ll get moving as it’s almost 6 am and we need to get moving. A special thanks to Kristin, Lori’s “sister” who is going to work today, on a Saturday, to put together the video montage for the service. I don’t know what I’d do with out her. I so want to share the images and sense of who Mom was with everyone and this can only be done by sharing the pictures of her. Thanks Kristin.
Time to go, have a great last day of September and God Bless you all.
(Ali, love your hair in the background, circa 1990??)
